tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post112618893072441304..comments2023-10-21T02:50:59.409-07:00Comments on Just As i Am...: i need help...Just this Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09342326653630476710noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126277838410529212005-09-09T07:57:00.000-07:002005-09-09T07:57:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry! What a crazy situation. If you want ...I'm so sorry! What a crazy situation. If you want my honest opinion, I think you're doing the right thing. If he isn't going to be a father there's no reason to have him involved at all. I have a great dad and when my parents got divorced he was still always around. That being said, I don't think that a child needs just any dad. Laken won't grow up any better because he has a loser in his life. He needs a real, great dad or none at all if you ask me. You love him to pieces and can raise him on your own just fine! I'll be thinking of you two.Vickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05742310142135558903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126277676519359922005-09-09T07:54:00.000-07:002005-09-09T07:54:00.000-07:00Hun you sound like you have a good head on your sh...Hun you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you already know what you want. But don't rule out child support yet until you have really thought about it. It is HARD working so much to support you and your little fam. Oh and that girl who is being a total Beatch, She will get 10 times over what is coming to her. Look at who she is dating. Best of luck to you and keep us updated on your decission.amberduskhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15021696470347084805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126218214542641052005-09-08T15:23:00.000-07:002005-09-08T15:23:00.000-07:00I think that you are totally within your rights to...I think that you are totally within your rights to ask him to relinquish his rights. Having someone breeze in and out of his life, offering disappointment after disappointment is not doing him any favours. There are many other opportunities for "male role models", and if he is really such a negative force, you are both better off without him.<BR/><BR/>If, years down the line, Laken wants to find his biological father, so be it. He will have to answer those questions about why he chose not to be around.J and Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17783384036164531467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126217385101668792005-09-08T15:09:00.000-07:002005-09-08T15:09:00.000-07:00hun...my sister is going through the same thing. i...hun...my sister is going through the same thing. i can't believe how insensitive men can be (not all men...just "those" men). and don't get me started on his mother. she called last week and all but cussed my sister out because she wasn't invited to the shower. um, yeah, where has she been the last EIGHT months???? ugh...i don't know what to say...other than really really think about it. but, i think you are already doing that...so i will just pray for you!TriciaNaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11924150684814014488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126206678668147192005-09-08T12:11:00.000-07:002005-09-08T12:11:00.000-07:00Well this is almost impossible to answer. No matt...Well this is almost impossible to answer. No matter what you decide, Laken could potentially resent you for it. Obviuosly Ray doesn't give a fuck about the situation, and continues to make the same mistake...so I would go for the money. Not for nothing, but you are busting your ass and he doesn't help at all. I DON'T THINK SO!!! That is bullshit. <BR/><BR/>I am praying for you.kristina conteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569585965552518917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126203481987657392005-09-08T11:18:00.000-07:002005-09-08T11:18:00.000-07:00I am so sorry you are having to go through all thi...I am so sorry you are having to go through all this - I feel awful. I have no words of advice but I can tell you are asking the right questions and that you really want to do right by Laken and because of that you will do the right by him.tghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01950648851120816775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126196399757146122005-09-08T09:19:00.000-07:002005-09-08T09:19:00.000-07:00awwww...sweetie!! i'm totally aching for you. I ha...awwww...sweetie!! i'm totally aching for you. I hate the situation that you're in, and I hate that Ray is screwing around with Laken's life!! You give me his address and I'll go over there and beat him up for you! And while I'm there I'll knock some sense into him!island jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17345932438728381107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126195652055659942005-09-08T09:07:00.000-07:002005-09-08T09:07:00.000-07:00ok, well you don't know me, and I don't know you. ...ok, well you don't know me, and I don't know you. I found your blog through Nichole's blog. But I found myself having to comment on your post. It sounds to me like you are a great, loving mother. Your son's father sounds like a jerk, who just wants to try to control the situation he helped to create, but then have nothing to do with, but then breezed back in to try to take control again. I am fully supportive of your idea to get him to sever parental rights if that's what you want. You only want what's best for your son. His father may breeze in and out of his life, but there will be other positive male role models in his life -- like your (step) dad. . . and there will be others. Hang in there and stay strong, and I hope you don't think I'm too weird for posting these things when I don't even know you. Take care sweetie.Kirstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07497557740894791524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126192484404578122005-09-08T08:14:00.000-07:002005-09-08T08:14:00.000-07:00i lived in san antonio for the entirety of my preg...i lived in san antonio for the entirety of my pregnancy and laken's birth. we came to A-town (where ray lives) for a visit when laken was two weeks old. we were here for 10 days and i called him the second i landed at the airport to let him know and he asked me to bring him over. i said "absolutely not! i will NOT go out of my way to make your life easier on you" and he replied with "well i don't have time!" in ten days he was gonna have trouble finding time. so i called his mom to let her know as well... and he came over with her. and he held him perpendicular to his body for about 5 minutes. didn't really look at him because he was apparently more interested in the conversations going on around him. He's seen laken ONCE and when we were in the hospital for his virus, he stayed away. He was out of town partying for everyone's graduations. <BR/><BR/>and this... is how high on a priority list my son is. <BR/><BR/>laken is MY son and well, thank you sperm donor, but your contributions are no longer necessary. not that you had any to begin with. <BR/><BR/>and seriously, he has a kid already, laken, and possibly one on the way? does this guy just need a warm place to put it???Just this Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09342326653630476710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12864760.post-1126191693630208992005-09-08T08:01:00.000-07:002005-09-08T08:01:00.000-07:00What the hell right does he have to change that ki...What the hell right does he have to change that kids name when he's not even involved in his life???? Has he even tried to see Laken? Cuz if he has, that's a different story altogether. But it doesn't seem like he has, so screw him. Grrrr.........are you gonna be home this evening?Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12463224072347631879noreply@blogger.com