Just As i Am...

7.21.2006

people... wake up and smell the homeless!

so i've been uber busy this week. on top of school and work, i volunteer at the United Way. this is normal. i used to do it every monday at the hospital but i've been slackin' on the "free work" thing.

when my son left on july 6th, he was a little chubby cheeked little baby boy with a mountain of soft curls on his head. when he came back he was a little BOY that can drink from a straw, hold his finger up to tell me he's "ONE," is learning how to kick a soccer ball, is trying to feed himself with silverware, is running much better, talking tons more, understanding commands... but most of all... they brought back to me a little boy with a HORRIBLE buzz cut. My military/fireman father decided he needed a REAL HAIRCUT and not this "girly stuff" and took the clippers to Laken's head.

i guess he bit off more than he could chew because his haircut looked like he had placed a bowl over his head and just shaved the rest off. it was so ugly. When i walked through the door to pick him up when they got into town, we both stood in the doorway staring at each other like, "who the heck are you?" there stood my son - the one with the milky complexion and great "uncle jessie" type hair - with this hairpiece, Three Stooges 'do and chocolate brown skin. he is BEYOND tan. he's a little peice of cocoa.

so i just stood there in shock. it honestly took me a few seconds to accept/believe that he was my son.


there's the gawd-awful haircut that i yelled about for a little bit and told my dad he's no longer allowed to come near my son's hair with anything sharp and/or designed to remove hair from the scalp. First things first - we drove into town to the Barber's shop. This is a family friend of ours that has been cutting my dad and brother's hair for.ev.er. He fixed it as much as he could but Laken apparently like his buzzcut that "Popo" gave him and cried the entire time. We "fixed" it as much as we could. When we asked for our fee, he said "oh no! i'm putting this on your Dad's tab!" and then said "i sure do hope bill doesn't fight fires the way he cuts hair. if so, i hope my house is never on fire..."

Laken and i have spent the last couple of days readjusting to each other. it's been tough. he's a whole new kid. and even though i talked to my mom everyday, i still missed so much. i am adjusting to his temperment, moods, communication, and flat out trying not to kiss him every second of the day. I cried. it's hard on me to not see him for two weeks and then see him and he refuses to let me touch him for about two hours. but, truth? i expected it. i was a Psych major for a little over two years and knew that this age is very crucial for relationships/bonding. Out of sight - out of mind. But he's coming around. and so am i.

anyway - more studying to do. test on monday! i haven't fallen off the bloggin' world. just been extremely busy and trying to stay centered and focused.

sounds made up, eh?!

18 Comments:

At 9:54 AM , Blogger Jocelyn said...

chriselda, i'm so glad he's made it back to you. he is such a cutie! it'll be no time before he gets readjusted to you. good luck with that test on monday!

 
At 4:34 PM , Blogger gloria said...

I would have been so *pissed*!!

But he's a CUTE kid, so it turned out okay in the end. My gosh he got DARK! :)

Glad he's home, glad you can exhale, and dude, pinch those cheeks once for me!!
(Laken's, not yours. LOL)

 
At 5:29 PM , Blogger Ashley said...

How cute.

Stop harrassing my wife.

 
At 8:57 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your little guy is just so darn adorable- even with a botched hair cut! That picture just made me smile! I hope he re-adjusts to you soon and that everything goes great for you!

 
At 9:55 PM , Blogger Grace said...

What a cutie! I think the haircut looks adorable on him. But honestly, with a face like that, what haircut wouldn't?

Good luck on Monday! Get lots of sleep the night before.

 
At 8:49 PM , Blogger Amber said...

dude.
i have so been there.
weeman's father always feels it is his duty to buzz his damn head.
he had beautiful curls and his dad shaved them off.
then we gave him a mohawk and it lasted until the next visitation......ARG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OK.
i'm done.
the adjustment is so damn hard.
we go through it everytime weeman returns. i feel your pain.
just remember he loves you...
so so so so
very much.
xo an

 
At 1:13 AM , Blogger caroline said...

yay for laken being back to you!!!
buzzcut and all
he's still WAY cute :)

 
At 1:19 PM , Blogger Scott said...

That whole post sounds so made up. i don't know how you got the fake pics of that kid but great work.

Scott

 
At 1:23 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

his hair! oooh. the poor boy. i liked his curly hair!

glad you have him back! it's crazy to think how much he can change in 2 weeks!

 
At 1:54 PM , Blogger elizabeth said...

i too can relate. my mom use to watch the kiddos while me and mike worked. it was hard b/c they sometimes wanted there "nonna" instead of me. then i would have to go into this whole speal to them about how i was cut open from one side to the other and they were pulled from my body so i got to be the person they wanted. of course they looked at me like i was smokin' crack but who cares. they are MY kids. i wanted to witness all of the wonders of them growing up and discovering things.

being a mommy is fuckin' fabulous but damn, who woulda thought that your heart would always be worn on your outside and that being a mommy could hurt so much.

but anyway, i know that those uncle jessie curls were to die for, but i still think he looks cute with his buzz cut. and just think, he's prolly not as hot.

 
At 6:25 PM , Blogger island jen said...

omg...if your dad ever goes near him with a pair or scissors again, i will personally come there and knock him out!!!

he's still about the cutest thing around though!!

 
At 6:57 PM , Blogger Barb said...

Holy crap, girl. Where do you find the find to star in plays, go to school, be a rockin' scrapper and mom, and VOLUNTEER?!?!? Send some of that my way!

I'm devastated for you about the hair cut. It will be a story for your dad to tell when the kiddos older.

 
At 11:45 PM , Blogger Jill said...

look at that TAN! sexy BOIIi heheh :)

he is a doll baby, buzz cut or not :)

 
At 12:51 PM , Blogger Christielli said...

That hair cut story is so funny. Have you ever considered giving him a mohawk a la Maddox (Angelina Jolie's son?). Kinda cool I think.

Hope that the test went well!

 
At 1:24 PM , Blogger Kat said...

he's so cute!
too funny about the barber charging your dad's tab!!!
glad he's back and you gusy are getting to bond again. love all the pictures

 
At 6:24 AM , Blogger K@te said...

he is the cutest thing i have ever seen...i'm totally with you on keeping the curls! they're adorable.

 
At 6:21 PM , Blogger brooklyn babe said...

the title of that post... was too cute.. lol.

 
At 8:57 PM , Blogger Michelle W. said...

hugs... the hair issue. I was there. My mother in law did that with Cass and I was pissed... omg. what's up with that?!

Michelle

 

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